Susan Farley O'K...Sincerely now... I can relate to your approach. I did honestly understand and do believe in neutering and spaying all pets who are not specifically purebreds / show dogs. I haven't had a pet who hasn't been sterilized in >30 years. But I have lost a dog before and the heartbreak and distress I felt was unbearable. My poor 16 year old girl sas almost blind, deaf and she was fearful of everyone. I didn't have a platform like this to ask for help to find her. I got her back but I still feel that trauma when someone loses their pet. I worry that publicly chastising someone may cause other people to be reluctant to post their lost pet. That would be sad for the animal and sad for the family. So it looks like we are not so different in our thinking. This is me extending an olive branch to you.
Carol-Lee Dufresne Aspiras neutering can be as inexpensive as $0, these days. I participate in many animal charities, worked with TNR groups, cared for my own TNR colony, have 7 cats in my house that all showed up in my yard, were trapped, neutered & kept inside because there’s a 45 mph Rd behind my house. Yeah you’re Queen. We all bow to you.
Cats are amazing survivors so don't get discouraged. The GOOD NEWS is that unlike dogs, cats normally do not roam very far from home ... WITHIN a 5-7 house radius. Your cat is probably scared, but hiding nearby. Just know that after being outdoors for awhile, an INDOOR cat will go into a protective SURVIVAL mode and will probably NOT respond to YOUR calls ... even if nearby.
If you have a GARAGE, leave the garage door slightly OPEN so your fur baby can have safe access to return home. Place items with your kitty's scent along with STINKY wet food (tuna/sardines) and WATER inside the garage to help lure your kitty. If NO garage, try to leave those above items outside NEAR the door where your kitty EXITED your home.
Cats feel safest to come out of hiding when it's QUIET and DARK. One suggestion would be to walk around your neighborhood at night (between 10 pm - 2 am) shining a FLASHLIGHT and look for reflecting EYES ... beneath cars, bushes, decks and on people's doorsteps. As you walk with the flashlight, call softly for your kitty and SHAKE your car keys or cat treat bag ... a sound that your cat will recognize. It took thirty (30) days to find and rescue my friend's cat. She was hiding in the STORMDRAINS during the day and coming out at night. It just took forever to get any sightings of her.
Please ask your neighbors to CHECK inside/under their BACKYARD SHEDS, decks as well as their GARAGES. Cats have been known to get LOCKED inside a shed/garage after owners finish yardwork.
Also visit your nearby animal shelters IN PERSON. Don't just call as your kitty may be overlooked by the busy staff, so actually go there. I recommend visiting EVERY OTHER DAY, because after the required holding period, the shelter can legally adopt her out or worse (if injured/sick).
I hope and pray that your sweet kitty finds its way back to you. Please keep us posted.